When these articles are written by someone who is engaged I understand that a bit more-you are actually about to be married, so I get why it's weighing heavily on your mind and you know the strengths and flaws of your significant other already. But don't write off aspects in people or promise things before you have even met someone. If you want to warn your future husband or wife about all your issues or let them know what you expect from them spiritually or emotionally then there will be plenty of time to discuss those naturally as your relationship advances. My best first date happened when I had no preconceptions or expectations from the date at all. Is he really ready to get married soon, because he is thinking about it a lot for a single guy." The list goes on to include essentially a Christmas wishlist for a wife: hilarious, can enjoy a craft beer, but doesn't get "trashy drunk," and loves his family and his flaws.ĭo you see where I'm going with this? By the end of the article the girl reading it either feels a bit pressured to change or downplay some aspects of herself-all before the first date. "I can't even choose a major, much less a husband. I can't wait to see you in your dress and sweep you off your feet." The girl gets a little nervous. When you walk down the aisle I'll probably get choked up. Number three: "I promise that I'll kiss you every day like I did on our wedding day. I will need you to encourage and uplift me regardless." The girl isn't sure if she is glad to know that he has baggage in advance or kind of wishes that she just found out naturally over time. I'm not perfect, I'm a fallen human and I have issues like anyone else. Let's see what the next one is." Number two: "Understand that I'm going to have some baggage. A woman of God knows that her body is her temple." The girl sits and thinks to herself, "All right, I've had sex with 3 guys-will that be too much for him? Jeez, I mean, I still respect myself and hold myself to high standards. Number one: "I seek a girl who knows her worth and who hasn't let a million guys tarnish her purity before me. One day he posts an article on Facebook entitled, "10 Things My Future Wife Must Know." She excitedly reads it, seeking to know everything about him. Things are progressing nicely and you even have a date lined up! You've followed him on Instagram and friended him on Facebook. Imagine being a single girl who is crushing on the cutie lab partner in Chemistry. What really unnerves me about these articles is both the expectation and the lack of fulfillment that these articles instill in their readers. Some of my good friends and family members have married young and that isn't what I seek to condemn here. But I'm also very ambitious and career-oriented so I know that marriage isn't something that I will have time for, at least for a couple years. I think that when you meet the right one even the biggest skeptics, such as myself, relent to a bit of mushy-gushiness. I have become a self-professed romantic ever since I met my girlfriend. Yet, the common thread here was the youth-and singleness-of the writers (I'm assuming that if you're dating someone seriously then you can just tell them to their face what you need them to be/expect). The secular man might include admissions of lax personal hygiene and requests for steamy nights-in and affirmation from time to time. The religious woman might include that she is looking for a "prayerful" or "God-fearing" spiritual leader to help guide her household or encourage her in times of insecurity. Know this Makk, you are going to continue to make such an impact on the lives of others just as you have for me.
However, your graduation is not the end of our story. Although it breaks my heart that you are leaving me and graduating an entire year early, I am so beyond proud of you. I am so amazed by you and all that you have accomplished over the last 3 years.
You have made my life so much more fun just by being in it. You have taught me the meaning of true friendship. I want to thank you for all that you are and all that you have done for me.
Your friendship has pushed me to strive to become the best version of myself possible, to reach for the stars in everything I do, and to never settle for less than I deserve.
You have taught and inspired me so much just by the way you live your life. You have become one of my greatest blessings. Whether it was accompanying me in hours of dreaded studying with Starbucks in hand, our many fun nights spent on the strip, the unforgettable road trips, pep talks while I cried over the most pointless things, getting re-baptized, concerts, game days- you did it all with me. Over the past three years, you have always been by my side and I could not picture my world without you in it.
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